A MAN MARRIED A WOMAN

Thanks be unto the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ for giving
us Pastor Chris! We have found in him, a teacher sent from God.
The title of the message is GOD'S LAST WORD ON YOUR FINANCES Part 6.
If you already know Pastor Chris, then you know he teaches from his
spirit in the direction phronesis moves him, irrespective of what he
titles the message. For example, if you want to understand sound
financial intelligence and save yourself many future money troubles,
listen to THE MASTER SOULWINNER.
Okay, alright now, so let's look at what Pastor talked about love and
relationship in this financial teaching. He tells a very touching and
instructive story here. Before he tells the story he says,"Love not
only gives, it has the capacity to receive. You must reciprocate love,
otherwise you quench love." Then he says also,"When you wound love,
you quench love." Hear the story:
"A man married a woman and ill-treated her. Everyday as he went to
work he'd write a list of things for her to do: 'Before I come back,
make sure make sure the kitchen is cleaned, the bed is dressed, the
table is set...' He would write everything and then on his return he
would ask for the list and then go through it with her to be sure
she'd done everything.

"She was so terrified as she lived with her husband. She had to do it
because she'd be in trouble he she didn't. Until one day, the man
died.

"Years after, she married another man who loved her and the house she
used to live in with her late husband had become hers. So the new man
moved in.

"After a long while of living with this man who was so loving and
kind, one day as she up cleaned the house, she got close to something
she felt in the chair. She wanted to check out what it was and tried
to pull it out; it was a litte piece of paper.

"As she pulled it out and opened it, she found out it was one of those
lists the late husband used to leave for her. As she read it through
she began to cry. She remembered her late husband and the fear in
which she lived all those years. And she thought for a moment:
everything in that list, she been doing for this new husband and the
husband never asked for it. She looked at her life: she had to do it
by force for another and for this one, she did it for love...

"Look at this woman: she had love in her and would do anything if she
were loved. She'd do anything because of love, but the former husband
pulled something else out of her. Love was quenched. He never did get
her love. And this other one got her love."
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Did that touch you? Have you learnt something? Please leave your
comments below. God bless you.
Saint Andrew of Lagos (SAOL)

FUNDAMENTAL LESSON NUMBER ONE!!

Message Title: IF THESE THINGS BE IN YOU

In this powerful message, Pastor Chris shares fundamental truths from the Word about marriage for everyone who desires true fulfillment. God has given us very clear and unambiguous definitions in the Word and Rev. Chris brings them to light in this teaching. If anyone you love is about to get married but has not listened to this message, plead with them to suspend the wedding preparations and listen to this message; you would have saved them a lot of future trouble. Below are a few quotes and nuggets, but you sure know you need to order for the full teaching at Christ Embassy Online Store.

Q1: “’Husband’ does not mean the male partner in a marriage. ‘Husband’ means ‘master’! Ignorance of this is the reason for a lot of problems Christians are having in their marriage…”

Q2: “Marriage in Christianity for most people is just a flop. Why? Because they don’t agree with God’s definitions. They have theirs. Many Christian wives erroneously believe they are equal partners with their husbands…”

Q3: “If most women had their father bold enough to talk to them, they’d be very successful in their marriage and they’d be very happy people. Most women have never been taught by their fathers. That’s their biggest problem-they don’t know who a man is. They think he’s another woman…”

Q4: “In a marriage, you have the man, who is the head of that union, and because he is the head of that union, it is important (for his wife) to understand him…until you know who you have married…it’s like working for somebody or serving somebody and not knowing what he wants…When you say that you are marrying a man, you are coming under his authority. When you decide not to subject yourself to that authority, you are a rebel and God’s not gonna accept what you are doing. The Bible says the man is the head of the woman…You’re not authority sharers even though you’re both heirs to the Kingdom of God, because there, there’s neither male nor female, but we’re functioning here. That’s why you were given the body of a woman and he the body of a male…”

Q5: “Before the woman was formed, Adam was not lonely; he was ‘alone’ and there’s a big difference…”

Q6: “You don’t need a marriage seminar; you need a Word seminar.”

Q7: “If you’d just listen to the Word of God, you won’t have all this fighting in your marriage.”

Q8: “No husband wants another mother; he’s had one all his life. He doesn’t want an older sister; he probably had one. Your secret is in obedience, in listening to your husband, in doing those things that please him. When you don’t do those things that please your husband, you take the role of a mother or an older sister. What happens automatically is he starts seeing you differently. The reaction he has for those that try to tell him what to do will be the reaction he’ll have towards you…”

Q9: “A man loves the one he serves and the one that serves him. He fights the one that is at the same level with him.”

Q10: “Don’t make your life hard. To be happy in your marriage and in your home is the easiest thing in the world. Just take your role. Take your place. That place that God gave you is a beautiful place, a place of peace, love, excellence. When you come out of it, you’d find it’s not a husband you have; you call him a husband but he’s not…”

Q11: “Learn to listen to your husband. Learn it. Practise it. Tell yourself you’re going to do it. That is where your beauty is. Once you stop listening all your beauty evaporates. It’s something you probably don’t know. Beauty is in obedience. That’s where the glory is. Once you’re not obedient, once you’re harsh and talk anyhow to your husband, your beauty evaporates; he can’t see it anymore…”

Q12: “You can have a better life. Why should a marriage become a war zone? You can have a better life.”
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Like I said before, these are just a few points from the lengthy teaching and you need to make an order for your own copy. We will keep posting on this blog and please keep coming back for more of Pastor’s wisdom on relationships. You can also subscribe to the RSS feed.
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Saint Andrew of Lagos (SAOL)
PS: Pastor Chris has preached thousands of sermons and if you’ve heard him talk about relationships in any of them, please email it to me with the sermon title at saintandrewoflagos@gmail.com.

PURPOSE OF THIS BLOG

Pastor Chris Oyakhilome says, “Marriage in Christianity for most people is just a flop. Why? Because they don’t agree with God’s definitions. They have theirs.”

Most Christians all over the world have a strong desire to be successful in their relationships and so they listen to whoever will teach and counsel them on relationships. As a result, many sense knowledge people have arisen to teach their own ideas rather than the Word of God. We hear of marriage seminars all over the place, but Pastor Chris says, “What you need is not a marriage seminar but a Word seminar.” He has also noted the fact that most conveners of these “marriage seminars” actually end up divorcing because what they teach may sound like the Word of God, but it’s not. Many who have followed their teachings have harvested sour and gloomy relationships.

Although Pastor Chris does not particularly hold marriage or singles seminars, it would amaze you to know that he has taught immensely and extensively from the Word of God on relationships. These vast teachings are scattered all over the thousands of messages he has preached over the years, and the purpose of this blog is to bring them out for you. You can have a blissful and fulfilling relationship and we bring to you the ‘sunesis’ of Pastor Chris on relationships. Please take note that this is not an official website of Christ Embassy but a personal initiative of Saint Andrew of Lagos (SAOL).